Celebrating Jesus’ birth……
Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with the angel, praising God and saying,
“Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.” Luke 2:13-14
I have procrastinated somewhat in revealing what has been on my heart during this month. So much has happened inside the world of adoption and outside the world of adoption. I have been thinking about the word “favor” and unpacking what this means both in “earthly” and “spiritual” terms. Additionally, I have been intentionally searching for “favor” in tangible ways. Really to me, “favor” is when I see or say, “That was a God thing.” So, let’s define “favor” as revealed by Webster: (1) friendly regard shown toward another especially by a superior (2) : approving consideration or attention (3) gracious kindness.
The amount of favor revealed to me this month, has been overwhelming and intimate.
It has been a heavy month. My Aunt Betty (mom’s sister) died in hospice at 4:30 AM on December 15th of liver failure and other complications.
Betty Ann
It was a difficult thing to watch and comprehend. My precious mother did not leave her side except when we told her that she needed to sleep at our house every night and be home before dark in order to take care of herself during such a draining time. We said our good-byes at Hospice since there was no memorial service, as per Betty’s wishes. We also moved most of her belonging out of her house within the week she died, per her husband’s wishes. We spent a week going through clothes, old photos etc. Such heaviness. My most priced possession that I received from my aunt’s estate (courtesy of my mom) was a locket she had. I opened the locket and there was a picture of me when I was a little baby, and the other side remains empty. I will be sure to put a picture of our miracle baby on the other side, once we receive our gift!
Betty’s locket (with my baby picture)
The “favor” I witnessed through my aunt’s death was God’s mercy in the way she died. She died peacefully, and in the hands of lovely servants at the hospice facility. She was such a private person, and I believe she waited for a time that mom was not there in order to pass. I also witnessed God’s hands in the way this brought our family closer together. My aunt’s life story was one that was pretty tragic. Her self-worth and value were the lowest of anyone I have ever met, yet God never gave up on her. His favor rests on his beloved daughter, Betty Ann.
During my adoption journey, many have said to me, “I am praying that God gives you ‘favor’ with bringing you a child.” I know that many people pray that way. They claim God’s “favor” even though something hasn’t happened yet. Well, I have always struggled with hearing that phrase. No disrespect to those that say this. I clearly do not deserve anything, much less “favor,” in the sense of defining what that is or means. I always felt that if I prayed for God’s “favor” I was being pretty arrogant. I always get a little freaked out by the “claim-it, it-is-yours” type gospel-preaching. Ultimately, God’s will is not always mine. I do believe in God revealing promises to me, however I feel like when you “claim it”—in a sense you are ushering yourself up a bit ‘higher’ than the all-knowing, creator God. Seems a bit arrogant that I would know what is best for my life. All that being said, God has been working on my heart this Christmas. Seems like the word, “favor” has jumped out at me all Christmas long. The holy spirit has given me this word to think about, my pastor preached about it, and it has popped up in a bunch of things I have been reading……even in Christmas carols (for Heaven’s sake!). Okay, I get it. I needed to reflect on what “favor” means. Now, my perspective of “favor” is a bit different. Beginning this new year, I will be specifically asking for God’s favor in bringing us a child. Yes, I will use the word “favor”—-To have “favor” is a beautiful thing. Many times in scripture, individuals had favor with God. They humbled themselves, and God did show favor to those he loved. Well, I am pretty sure that God can see, hear, and read my heart. I want for God to say, “good and faithful servant” and “you are favored”……yes, I want to be God’s favorite. He is BIG enough to have tons of favorites, and yet, he is intimate in the way he loves us. I think about parents that have multiple children…..they have multiple favorites. They love them all! Our heavenly Father loves us too—we are one of many of his adopted children. He has enough love for us ALL!
Galatians 4:4-5
But when the right time came, God sent His Son, born of a woman, subject to the law. God sent Him to buy freedom for us who were slaves to the law, so that He could adopt us as His very own children.
The year, 2013, is going to be a tremendously lovely year. I just know it. I went into the nursery this morning and decided that I will no longer close the door but OPEN it. I put a doggie gate up so that the dogs will stay out, BUT that door is open. I am praying for God’s favor, and I don’t feel like it is arrogant. Rather it is an act of anticipation of His promises. See, I am really going out-side-of-my-box.
Oh, and for those wanting to know an update about our adoption journey: This month we passed on 3 profiles. It has been the month of passing. It is hard to believe that we have not passed on a profile showing this whole time, yet December has been the “passing month.” Believe me, it is hard to pass on a showing, however if one of us has reservations, we honor each other in that decision. The first one, we both had reservations. The second one, I had reservations. The third one, Adam had reservations. Yet, through all the birthmothers we did not “meet” there is ONE birthmom that is viewing our profile over the holidays!! She will make her decision after the holidays. So, as we pray for God’s favor, please join us in praying for birthmother “C” (seems like all the gal names start with the letter “C”) and let’s see what God does!
Attached are pictures of our Youth Christmas party (we went ice skating), Christmas pictures….oh, and we had our 9th wedding anniversary on the 20th! So blessed and God has shown me favor beyond my comprehension!
Merry Christmas 2012
Momma Glo opening gifts! Missing her after her month stay!
Always a kid at heart! Loves action figures!
Niece Abby and Aunt Jennifer (wearing my aunt’s locket)
Youth Christmas Party–Ice Skating 2012
Austin and I
Rachel (UGA student/former youth member) and I
Skating with the Ladies